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THE NDE PARADIGM

Living in Alignment with Cosmic Consciousness

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No event in this world is more life-altering to an individual than the near-death experience. For every
experiencer, the world is never again interpreted in the same way because it is no longer seen as the primary
field of existence. The NDE results in undeniable self-knowledge and self-realization of the true nature of our
existence and the purpose of life.

While experiencers have no doubt whatsoever that they have encountered the primary field of existence,
attempts to prove the validity and value of NDEs fall short. This remains so even though tens of millions have
had NDEs – people from every region in the world, at every age, from every religion or no religion, from people
living "good" to "bad" lives.

Intellectual musings about NDEs falter because there literally are no words to describe the dimension that is
encountered, the language used can be misinterpreted and, in any case, any intellectual case for the NDE can
only be a theory. Meanwhile, scientific experiments that primarily focus on the physiological processes
associated with NDEs miss its very essence. Even scientific explorations that acknowledge the NDE essence as
non-physical provide no guidance as to how to use this knowledge.

While NDEs differ in many ways, and those differences should not be discounted, the overwhelming
commonalties are more important, and form the basis of the NDE Paradigm. The true measure of the power
and cosmic truth of the near-death experience are the resulting unprecedented and irreversible changes in
experiencer belief and behavior.

Living the NDE Paradigm provides far more impressive proof of NDE validity than any intellectual belief or
scientific experiment because the positive changes in one’s life are monumental in nature, personally undeniable.
. . and inevitable. They are inevitable because once the doors to cosmic consciousness are opened, significant
changes (see RESULTS) begin immediately upon application.

The more the Paradigm is applied, the greater the life transformation. In short, living the NDE Paradigm
replicates the essence of the NDE experience… without the practitioner suffering physical trauma.

Because living the NDE Paradigm does not necessitate a great deal of intellectual/scientific knowledge, it is
accessible by all mentally healthy people. Every single moment of life, every thought, is an opportunity to apply
- or not apply - the Paradigm. The wisdom of choosing to apply the Paradigm becomes self-evident, especially
to non-experiencers, who will see the changes in their lives.

NDEs give experiencers knowledge. . . but not necessarily wisdom. A person confused by life before a NDE
may be even more confused afterward. Experiencers know they must apply the knowledge they received to this
dimension – an extremely challenging task that necessitates personal decision-making. Living the NDE Paradigm
does not eliminate that task – or its difficulty - but helps one by providing a coherent plan for integrating NDEs
into this dimension.

The NDE Paradigm is a spiritual compass that provides direction without dogma – it is a truth, not the truth. It is
based on cosmic consciousness, which underlies all spiritual truths. Practitioners must always think for
themselves and adjust and expand upon the Paradigm in light of their own life journey. The NDE Paradigm
cannot be lived on remote control, because it demands personal involvement. There can, and should be, other
versions of the Paradigm.

Believing in the Paradigm will accomplish nothing; only the effort to apply it in its entirety will achieve results.

THE NDE PARADIGM

UNDERSTANDINGS

1.  This is not the primary dimension of existence. Any moment you are not aware of this, you are not living the
NDE Paradigm. The primary field of existence is one of unconditional love and compassion. "God" is
everything, collectively. You co-create the universe with "god." You are not apart from "god;" you are a part of
"god."

2.  You are, in essence, a vibration – or wave, or energy – a manifestation of unconditional love. The wording
does not matter, the word "vibration" is only an approximation, because the vibration you are is not a neutral
energy, but rather one that is love, compassion, and a knowingness of existence. When you die, what remains
eternal and living will be the real you – a vibration.

3.  Your mission on earth is to improve/evolve/self-realize your vibration. You do not control anything or
anyone else; your focus must be on yourself. You improve your vibration through love – including self-love –
and compassion. "Acting" nice is of no benefit.

4.  You are not here to improve or "save" this world. This world was designed to be as it is, even with the
brutality and harshness it offers. However, by living the Paradigm of love and compassion, you will by definition
improve the world. But you must concentrate on yourself.

5.  Intentions, rather than deeds or beliefs, are what matter. Deeds have consequences in this dimension; in the
primary dimension they matter only insofar as they are the result of intention. When you die, your true
intentions, motivations and thoughts from every moment of your life will be known to you. These vibrations will
be the measure of your life. Your accomplishments or failures in material terms - or your station in life, from
beginning to end - will mean nothing. The events in your life are never rewards or punishments.

6. There is no judgement when you die, save for self-judgement. You will not be punished by some external
god. You served god – and vice versa – by taking this mission, and it is understood in the next dimension just
how difficult – and "unwinnable" – this life is. The very concept of "sins" is wrong; you have instead made
mistakes from which to learn.

7.  Every moment of your life has meaning. You will be challenged – and every challenge, every difficulty,
every setback, should be viewed as an opportunity to achieve your mission of growth.

8.  The NDE Paradigm will not prevent difficult experiences – indeed, the Paradigm guarantees you will face
challenges, some of which cannot be overcome. Struggle is one avenue to growth.

9.  Joy, pleasure, happiness - all these are also avenues of growth. Blissful moments improve your vibration;
they are to be maximized. An infinite number of sources for joy are always available – but while life challenges
are provided, happiness must be sought. Recognize and celebrate the simplest life pleasures at every
opportunity. Identify with and delight in the happiness of others; making these connections helps all achieve the
life mission.

10.  You chose to accept this mission in the earthly dimension – knowing of the difficult nature of existence in
this dimension. As we are all connected, you may have even chosen a sacrificial life in order to provide others
with opportunities for growth. A child that lives for but a day has served his/her mission.

REQUIRED ACTIONS

11. Love and have compassion for yourself and others. Recognize that we have all taken on this difficult
mission.

12.  Do not judge others. Your mission is to take the situation you are presented with and to act in accordance
with the Paradigm. Nothing anyone does makes you respond in a certain way, it is your choice alone. The fact
that someone is doing something that seems hurtful to you or others is first and foremost an opportunity for you
to improve your vibration through non-judgement. Non-judgement does not preclude taking action, however.
That is a choice you are free to make, and then your mission will be to apply the Paradigm to the consequences.
All experience is knowledge to be converted into wisdom.

13.  You must not judge yourself and – as you should do with others – look at every thought and action that
falls short of living the Paradigm as a mistake rather than a sin; more importantly, as an opportunity from which
to learn. In the primary dimension, you will not be punished by any external force for even your worst
moments; it serves no purpose to judge/punish yourself in this dimension. You will, however, feel the full weight
of everything you’ve lived – from thoughts to actions – and not just know but EXPERIENCE exactly how these
affected others. You will hold yourself accountable, measuring the success of your mission in life in terms of the
love and compassion you provided to others. Your shortcomings are necessary for growth; it is guaranteed you
will fall short at times, perhaps your entire life. But failing to learn from these mistakes will only assure you will
repeat these patterns.

14.  Recognize that we are all at different points of our mission. The behavior of someone else at this particular
time is part of their mission; your mission in encountering them at this time is to react in accordance with the
Paradigm. Do not expect anything of anyone; demand only of yourself. You cannot control what happens to
you; you can only control your reaction to those events.

15.  Look for every opportunity to help others through word or deed – not for a cosmic reward, but out of
genuine love and compassion. Every time you do so, you improve your vibration and thus fulfill your mission.

16. Focus on the journey, not the destination – this life is not all there is. There is no destination to be reached in
this lifetime, thus you cannot fall short of reaching it. When this life ends, the journey continues.

17.  Self-insight is crucial to living the NDE Paradigm. If you cannot follow these actions, or are confused or
seriously conflicted in the attempt, your body/mind may be broken, and you should consult with others,
including medical personnel.

RESULTS

18. You will see life more clearly than ever before, because you will be in accordance with cosmic
consciousness. You will be more mentally well-balanced than ever before.

19. When you interpret life through the Paradigm, you will re-assess all you have done in your life. Guilt – and
fear of punishment – is eliminated.

20.  Every moment of your life has meaning when you live the Paradigm. Every thought matters, and is an
opportunity for growth. Everything makes sense, including setbacks.

21. You will come at every decision in life from the soundest foundation possible. Even if a decision you make
does not yield success, you will not agonize over it because you made the best choices you could.

22. Living the Paradigm will NOT prevent challenges or a difficult life. It will not provide material success. It
will not guarantee happiness – but it will provide the best balm possible in challenging times because you will
correctly understand what is actually happening. And in this, eventually, it will guarantee serenity even in the
face of what was previously thought of as unbearable.

23.  The love and compassion you provide to others primarily serves you - because in the act of letting love
flow through you, you are also its recipient. But this act will also attract love and compassion.

24.   You will reduce or eliminate the re-occurring mistakes of your life. Life-long bad habits, actions or
thoughts will give way to radically different, life-enhancing changes. These changes, over time, will become the
automatic, default reactions of your life.

25.         You will feel a greater connection with other people – even those you do not speak or directly interact
with – because of your compassion.

26.          You will reduce anger and frustration by not judging others – or humanity or the world at large - and
instead recognize they are on their own unique mission, and that even horrific mistakes are fundamentally
necessary for the world to serve its purpose.
After Death Communications are NOT
Death Bed Visions, Near Death Experiences,
or Precognitive Encounters.
Being a Responsible Researcher
By
Carla Wills-Brandon, Ph.D.

For the last twenty five years, I have been investigating a phenomenon known as the death-bed vision. Along with this I have also researched the
psychological impact of reported communications from the deceased. I have listened to close to two thousand death-related communication accounts from
individuals from every walk of life, around the globe. In doing this, I have been privileged to hear some amazing stories. Being a clinical trauma specialist for
close to thirty years, my work has rotated around extreme trauma, death, dying, the psychology of spirituality and the process of grieving. One would think
after so many years, I would have reached "burn-out," but my interest in the psychology of these very human experiences continues.
Death-bed visions, as reported by not only the dying but those who care for them, along with communications from the deceased, as reported by survivors,
cross all races, creeds, religions, socio-economic groups, age ranges and genders. These two specific types of reported encounters, along with those of a
similar nature, have a historical legacy in both literature and science. Many of you who are currently reading this article have made wonderful contributions to
the study of such phenomenon, while others are contemplating how they can add to the credibility of the field. Everyone is needed to further and expand on
such legacies.
At the turn of the last century, researchers openly investigated the constituents which made up such encounters. Within the populations of the time, near death
experiences (NDEs), communications after death (now popularly termed ADC), pre-death or death-bed visions (DBVs) and premonitions where part of
popular culture and spirituality.
With the advent of the measurable "cause and effect" method of scientific investigation, experiences such as the above were no longer of interest to modern
researchers. Such encounters were difficult to measure with the "cause and effect" mode of scientific exploration.
Over the last decade, there has been an increase in interest in this area of the human experience. More investigators are taking the risk and returning to the
exploration of age old questions like, does consciousness survive physical death? And if so, what can this tell us about the human living experience? Being an
investigator in this field, and the author of several books and numerous articles discussing such topics, I’m often asked to review manuscripts for publication,
along with Doctoral or Master’s projects. Over the years this has been interesting work for me. I’ve enjoyed watching the field grow as the next generation of
authors and researchers begin to flourish. Unfortunately, in recent years I’ve noticed a new trend.
Some authors are combining the many aspects of communication from deceased individuals under the ADC umbrella and I must say I have a great deal of
concern about this. On certain websites dedicated to the ADC experience, deathbed visions and near death experiences are listed as "after death
communications." This minimizes the work of individuals like Moody, Grey, and Ring, who were some of the first to investigate NDEs. Such "lumping" also
takes credit from death bed vision investigators like Barrett, Osis and Haraldsson. The need to place all death communication experiences into one category
steals from all of us the opportunity to appreciate the specific nuances each form of contact has to offer.
A departing vision takes place before actual death occurs. It cannot be seen as an after death communication, because "after death" is what it implies. As
author, researcher and founding member of the International Association for Near Death Studies John White recently put it,
"With the DBV, the distinction is very simple and unquestionable:  the time of death of the percipient and the perceived.  If the percipient had the experience
while the perceived was still alive, it is by definition a DBV.  If the percipient had the experience after the perceived was deceased, it is then by definition an
ADC."
Precognition of death is a precognitive experience and it too occurs before, not after, a death. ADCs are events which occur after a death.
The authors and researchers who have put not only DBVs and NDEs into the category of the after death communication, but precognitive experiences, need
direction from the more experienced generation of investigators. Otherwise, such combining of experiences will dilute not only the units of measure which
define the significance of the ADC, but will minimize the uniqueness of the other types of pre death experiences. Death phobia permeates Western culture and
more research is needed, but if investigators are not cautious with regard to their specific definitions of the topics they are exploring and discussing, the field as
a whole will lose credibility.
Because these accounts are spontaneous and difficult to measure quantitatively, caution must be taken in how they are reported. Continuing to look for
consistency from experiencer to experiencer will be well worth while, but it will become difficult if the different types of experience are blended into one
common death related paranormal encounter.
With reference to this new trend, exploration into the similarities is essential, but I hope in the future the differences within the specific categories will also be
respected. Personally, I utilize the idea of the "spiritually transformative experience" when attempting to discuss all encounters at one time.
Another area of investigation which is in need of further responsible exploration and inclusion by new authors and researches involves a category for the
disruptive psychological consequences these encounters often produce for the experiencer. In past research, this area of the experience was almost always
explored. Sadly, some of today’s new investigators and authors are not trained as clinicians and in their writings they neglect discussing this aspect of these
encounters. The tendency is to focus on flowery positives, with limited regard for the emotional difficulties experiencers must often confront. In a few writings,
I have even seen grief negated or extremely minimized, not by experiencers, but with assumptions made by authors.
With regard to the death-bed vision, near death experience, precognition, sense of universal connection and communications from the deceased, in my last
book, "A Glimpse of Heaven," I focused in on the often neglected aspect of initial psychological disruption for the experiencer. Many experiencers report they
physically feel different or suffer physical ailments after such encounters. Reported psychological difficulty, such as confusion, feeling alienated, or depressed,
spiritually lost, intense mood swings, along with a host of emotional issues, can occur after an encounter. This consequence sadly often appears to be
neglected by new investigators and authors. The arena of difficult psychological consequences and emotional restructuring, both of which can create years of
discomfort for experiencers, must be more prominent in future books and research papers.
The survivalist field of investigation is full of challenges and all of us need to be working together to give credence to what we have discovered within our own
unique, but similar, explorations and research. Being involved in this arena of the human experience can be exciting and rewarding, but we must also be
responsible. Inaccurate data reporting, minimization of the importance of each area of study and an over zealous ego, demanding credit where credit is not
due, can impact all of us.
When I began investigating the departing visions of the dying and those who are connected to them, I quickly learned several things. I immediately discovered
that those investigators who came before me had built a foundation upon which I could stand. For this, I will forever be grateful. Without the ground breaking
contributions of these brave souls, I would not have had a "beginning." I must respect the gifts I have so freely received.
Secondly, I discovered this journey was a "we" experience, not a "me" experience. With this knowledge I have tried to be a team player, adding to the field,
understanding I’m not "inventing the wheel." All I’m doing is fine tuning one very small spoke of the wheel.
Thirdly, I am responsible. If I see research which is inaccurate or minimizing of the investigations of others, I can’t "hide out" and ignore what is happening. If I
do this, I’m no longer a part of the solution. Instead, I’m only contributing to a possible blossoming problem, which in the end could discredit us all.

Father: Son's Spirit Saved My
Butler, Ky.
- Four weeks after a tragic fire claimed a 4-year-old boy, the boy's father talks about his efforts to save his son and the supernatural
guidance that he said saved his life. Jamie Hughes said that he thought he would die, trapped in his burning house. He said he would
have died had the spirit of the son he was trying to save not guided him.
For Hughes and his wife Christa, there is no escaping the tragedy.
Four weeks ago an early-morning fire destroyed their Butler, Ky., home and killed their son Billy.
Billy's parents said they were in the bedroom when they realized the house was on fire. Jamie Hughes said he told his wife to jump
out the bedroom window, then threw two blankets over his head and started searching for Billy.
He said he was almost immediately overcome by flames, and at one point stumbling into a pile of burning clothes, disfiguring one of
his hands.
"I looked at my hand for a split second and forgot about it. That quick. Because I had one mission in mind, and that was finding my
son," said Hughes.
But as the inferno grew, Hughes said realized there was no way his son was still alive.
"I could hear everything. I could hear the house burning, I could hear the house creaking," said Hughes. "And then I hear this little
voice."
He said the voice continued speaking.
"I hear this little voice say, 'Get out. Daddy get out.' And I about went to my knees," said Hughes.
He said he found a window, and punched it with his one good hand, but it didn't break.
"I hear this little voice again, 'Daddy get out.' The next time I hit the window it busted," said Hughes.
As he climbed from the burning house, he said he looked back one last time.
"I turn around and I see -- I see two shadows standing on the stairwell. One was my son and one was my father I lost two years
ago," said Hughes. "That let me know that my son was fine."
Hughes spent the next three weeks in the burn unit, mourning his son.
"It's a hard thing to deal with," said Hughes.
He said he's not sure why he keeps coming back to the scene of the tragedy, other than the fact that memories are all he has left.
"I mean I know he's not here. He's in heaven with my dad and the rest of my family. But, I mean, it's hard -- it's home," said
Hughes.
Investigators said they still haven't figured out what caused the fire.
The Hughes family has relied on the support of the community to get back on their feet. A benefit has been planned for this Saturday
at St. Xavier church in Falmouth.

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